With the government placing social restrictions to protect us from the Coronavirus (COVID-19), we’re left at home in isolation in an effort to stay healthy. However, being single in a time of social distancing can bring up unexpected feelings of loneliness and fears of abandonment. Yes, being single can be a beautiful gift that allows you to go through a process of self-discovery, but when you’re forced into isolation, old feelings of longing or jealousy for couples who are happily cuddled up in quarantine can be hard to face. Relationship Coach and Professional Christian matchmaker Renee Richel, President of 1 True Match guides you through making the most of this forced isolation and finding your footing for the future:
Practice Self-Validation
Right now, the tears might fall more easily, the fear might come in waves, and loneliness may sink in unexpectedly. Even if you’ve embraced your aloneness for the time being, you might notice your mind spinning out or worrying that you’re “losing time” to meet the right person to spend your life with. It’s normal to crave intimacy, to miss cuddling, to want someone to share life’s experiences with; to desire a partner to navigate uncertainty with and make you feel safe is completely understandable. However, you have to be able to trust in yourself and your abilities in order to get through the effects of this pandemic.
Renee provides 5 positive affirmations to repeat whenever you’re feeling uncertain to practice self-validation:
- “I make sense. My feelings are valid.”
- “I am enough. I am loved. I belong.”
- “I radiate love and respect. I deserve nothing less.”
- “I am fully capable of doing anything I set my mind to.”
- “Everything is going to be okay. It will all work out in the end.”
“I would also suggest workout sessions with other single friends as accountability partners. We all need to look and feel our best when we come out of quarantine,” adds Renee. Our future partner is waiting for us when we are truly ready 100%. Also pray for your future mate every day. It may seem silly but when you meet them it will all make sense and worth it.”
Prioritize Self-Care
Even though hair salons and nail shops may be closing, that doesn’t mean you can’t still try to look your best! Have you been wanting to try a new mud mask to cleanse your pores? Maybe you’ve been putting off plucking those pesky overgrown hairs around your eyebrows? Now is the time to practice self-care; whether it’s an at-home makeover, online shopping spree, Netflix marathon, or luxurious bubble bath, take the time to pamper yourself. Here are Oprah Winfrey’s 25 self-care tips to help you become the best version of yourself.
This is the perfect time to restore yourself emotionally, physically and spiritually. Practicing self-validation and prioritizing self-care will help you feel good about yourself and be confident in your actions. However, you might consider attending an online Bible study, watching a live stream of a church service, or spending time in the Word of God to grow and restore yourself spiritually. You can also find a plethora of online workout classes or simply take a walk around your neighborhood to work some physical activity into your day. To get a sense of direction as to where you should start, determine what makes you happy, challenges you to be better, and brings you hope for the future.
Envision The Future
It’s important for you to have a clear and confident vision for yourself and your future. You should do the same when thinking about jumping into the dating pool; your wants, needs, and goals are all important aspects that need to be taken into consideration when deciding who you want to share your life with. This time of isolation is a great opportunity for you to create deeper clarity around your patterns in relationships and what kind of partnership you desire in the future.
1 True Match hosts a workshop for singles to learn what will really make them happy in their future and the kind of partner who will make the best fit for them and that life. “Love God first and for most and he will lead you to the one,” assures Renee. “I love when I hear stories from clients and matches that they were led to us and God led us to their 1 True Match.”
These workshops also give them a chance to meet other singles and practice some of their newly developed skills. Stay tuned to our website and social media to learn about when the next workshop can be scheduled. Place your trust in 1 True Match and let us help you become the best version of yourself! We have a team of experts who are ready to make you sure you shine! Click here to schedule a free consultation and learn more about our future workshops.
