Jill* had a great marriage so when her husband passed away after nearly 30 years together, she wanted to take some time and just be with her kids and heal from their huge loss. After four years and with her kids now in college, she felt like she might be ready to start socializing and even dating. Now in her 50’s she was still vibrant and attractive but hadn’t dated in 34 years and was entering a dating world she didn’t recognize. She was also concerned about her safety; she’d heard the horror stories of men taking advantage of vulnerable women and she wasn’t about to even try all those risky dating apps.
Setup and Apps Were A Waste of Time and Worrisome
Jill’s friends set her up on a few dates and fixups, but they didn’t work out and she felt awkward turning down men that her friends had gone to the trouble of setting her up with. A friend even signed her up on a dating app, but Jill could tell right away it wasn’t a good fit for her. As a working professional, she felt it was too public, too time-consuming to go through all the profiles and she was still worried the men on the site might not be who they said they were. She was at a dead end and didn’t know where to turn.
I Never Thought I Would Hire a Matchmaker
Using a professional matchmaker was not even on her radar until a co-worker confided that she was a client of 1 True Match. A Jacksonville-based Christian matchmaking service, 1 True Match offered the confidentiality and screening process Jill was looking for and she didn’t have to invest as much time as she had during her short time on the dating app. But she was still hesitant. “My first reaction was the stigma of having to use a matchmaker,” explained Jill. “I was afraid I would look desperate that I needed help to find someone. But I realized I did need someone to help ease me back into the dating world, a lot of time had passed since I was single.”
Working with a Matchmaker Gave Her Clarity
Jill was pleased with the 1 True Match process. She liked that both she and the candidates were undergoing the same steps and were as equally invested in the process. “Renée guided me through the process,” said Jill. She helped me better understand myself and what I was really looking for instead of ‘trying people on’ to see if they fit.” Jill admits at first the thought of paying someone to find her a date was daunting, but after experiencing the thorough process, the quality of candidates and the security she feels knowing her date is who they say they are makes it an invaluable investment.
What Working With a 1 True Match Matchmaker Looks Like
Jill’s story is common. Many of our clients come to us after years of apps and well-meaning setups. Here is what changes when a professional matchmaker does the searching for you.
- We get to know you first. Your matchmaker learns your values, your faith, your goals, and what has not worked before.
- We search and screen for you. Instead of swiping, you only meet people who share your values and want the same kind of relationship.
- We pray over every match. Faith is the foundation of what we do, and we keep each client and match in prayer.
- We set up the date. We handle the introduction and the details, so you can simply show up and enjoy it.
- We follow up after. Feedback after each date helps your matchmaker refine the next introduction.
Is Hiring a Matchmaker Worth It?
For Jill, the answer was yes. She got back her time, her privacy, and her peace of mind. She also gained clarity about what she wanted in her next relationship.
A matchmaker is a good fit if you are serious about a committed relationship, short on time, or tired of apps that lead nowhere. If that sounds like you, book a free consultation and see how a match from a matchmaker compares to another night of swiping.
Final note, Jill is currently dating someone she says has potential, they are both taking it slow and enjoying the companionship as they build their relationship.
*Name was changed to protect her privacy.
