The answer is that most people must resort to using online dating sites which use a series of (often embellished) data points to try and match couples. This approach has a certain appeal over awkward dates arranged by friends and family since it is anonymous.
As a matchmaker, I’ve heard the “he said/she said” of literally thousands of dates. Although my team and I have knack for setting up quality dates, this doesn’t mean dates can’t go wrong or get off to a bad start.
If you’re being set up via a matchmaker who has taken great care to get to know you, here are three simple things to keep top of mind to help you stay on track and prepare for every first date:
- Expect to reveal and share. First dates should be fun but in order to create a second date, there must be a connection that is built on inspired human emotion. Stay away from topics that are negative or superficial and prepare to show up, to be seen and heard. The art of first date conversation lies in your ability to ask meaningful, value-centered questions and in the ability to share from the heart. This creates an instant bond between two people that is the foundation of creating chemistry.
- Expect to engage on a deeper level. A first date is a long conversation perhaps over coffee, drinks or dinner. Contrary to what you’ve read about dating services and matchmaking companies, your first date is simply one step in the process. Only YOU can inspire love. A matchmaking service is simply there to open the right doors for you. Not every first date will be with your soul mate. Those who go into first dates with this expectation feel the post-date emotional crash when interest is not mutual. Take the pressure off a first date by relaxing and enjoying the time to get to know someone new regardless of the outcome. You’ll be that much more at ease and enjoyable to be near!
- Expect to offer Feedback. As a matchmaker, my team and I are always calibrating the feedback we receive after each and every date. Engaging a matchmaker means you come in with an open heart and mind and at a times, a thick skin. You’ll be asked to give honest and well thought out feedback about what you liked about your date, what worked or didn’t work and how you believe you came across on the date. It’s a wonderful and eye opening experience to hear how you’re doing on dates via the people you meet. It’s important to have a trusted source to help you refine your “wish list” and find the person who is your ideal match for your future.
Matchmaking success is making introductions between two people who are compatible. We are not here to waste your time or ours by introducing two people who are not a true match. It’s a success when you find that special someone on one of your dates during your time with us who you want to continue dating.
Yes, Renee Richel provides date coaching to all clients. Renee also teaches a program called "LOVE Starts with YOU!" offering the latest relationship tips to apply in your life today and for the future to find and hold onto a lasting love. Visit our events page for more details on up coming events/tours.
You’ll always receive a full profile, verified photos and our “take” on every person that we introduce to you. We ask the difficult and personal questions that lead us to understanding their character, emotional readiness and so much more.
You’re in great hands. clients who have come before you have experienced the luxury in dating with my 7 years of experience of success helping some of the most eligible men and women find love. If you would like to speak to one our Clients we will gladly put you in touch with them.
We are more than just your matchmakers. We are also your dating expert & relationship coaches. Our advice and counsel may be the most valuable part of our process together. You’ll greatly benefit from the honest feedback, as well as the guidance given about each person you’ll be meeting.